There doesn’t have to be something ‘wrong’ with you to see a therapist.

There are many reasons to see a therapist.


These reasons include someone on your side while you go through a difficult time, a safe place to work through the things that trouble you, or getting to know yourself better.

YOUR reason for coming to therapy, is the right reason. You will gain insight into your emotional experiences and develop the tools you need to grow.

Send me a message if you would like to begin therapy and let us embark on a journey of self discovery.

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That which is unconscious still affects your conscious mind.

That which is unconscious still affects your conscious mind. You can’t see it or you can’t remember it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

Have you every asked yourself these:
Why did I just do that?
Why do I feel this way?
Why can’t I get over it?
Why do I repeat these same mistakes?

Or said this about yourself:
– I get very anxious when I go there.
– I got so upset and I don’t know why.
– I don’t know why I behave this way.
– I’ve tried everything and I can’t change it.

A lot of how we live our lives have been laid down by our very early experiences, when we didn’t have the understanding of what was going on or didn’t have the language to express ourselves.

Those experiences have become buried in our unconscious and play a big part in shaping our responses and behaviours.

The job for you, is getting to know yourself by examining why you do the things you do and decide whether you are happy with those responses as well as making change slowly if you are not.

Be curious, ask questions, seek answers, seek understanding. It is by doing so that change will come.

If you would like me to go with you on your journey of self-discovery, get in touch.


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Be kind to you

Treat yourself as you would a friend, is today’s action point from Action for Happiness.

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We can be very harsh with ourselves. We call ourselves boring, ugly, fat, silly. We beat ourselves up over little mistakes and refuse to forgive ourselves when we’ve done wrong.

Imagine we were speaking with a friend. Would we tell them they were stupid or stare at their blemishes? Would we constantly bring up old mistakes? Wouldn’t we tell them it’ll be okay and be there for them with our loving arms around them?

That is the challenge for you today. Enough of the harsh words to yourself. Enough of the constant put downs. Replace those with praise, understanding and assurance that you’re doing good enough for what you have now.

Go on, be kind to yourself like you would be to a friend.

What will you be saying to yourself today? Please share.

What to do while you’re waiting for an answer.

Waiting can be draining. You put so much work in, you’ve given your best and now, the waiting begins.

You start to worry ‘Was it enough?’, ‘I forgot to do this!’, ‘I know I shouldn’t have done that’, ‘ I should have listened to that person’, ‘Why do I think I deserve it?’, ‘It would devastate me if I don’t get it’. ‘Why is it taking so long??’, ‘I’m rubbish anyway’.

Waiting is very exhausting. And no, you’re not rubbish. You’re just overthinking and #catastophising. Your mind is preparing for the worst. It can take the joy out of living if you let it.

There’s an alternative. You can put it aside. Whatever ‘it’ is – a project, an application, a procedure, dream, an essay – you’ve done your best for now.

In the meantime, find something else to do. Start another project, research another role, prepare yourself for other work. Finish up an incomplete project or start a totally new one.

This is not time to wait around. It’s time to carry on living and improving yourself. Before you know it, when you aren’t even looking, an answer will come and you will have achieved so much more.

Don’t wait around. Do something else instead.

What do you do while waiting?

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Returning to in-person therapy: Considerations for counsellors and therapists following 2020 lockdown procedures

As lockdown eases, and organizations starts to re-open, we begin to consider whether to leave our home-offices to see clients face-to-face.


However, before you book in your first face-to-face client, there are a few factors to consider:

1. Here in the UK, UKCP and BACP advises currently that you continue to work from home if you can. Are you able to provide your service from home?

✓ Check your regulatory bodies’ advice.

2. How will you provide your client with a 2mtr social distance behind the door of your therapy room? Will you and your client need to wear a mask?

✓ Check the Government guidelines and social distancing rules that currently apply.

3. How are other experienced therapists practising? Looking at the situation with a different lens may highlight any other issues you haven’t considered, as well as how they may be overcome.

✓ Speak to your supervisor or your career coach.

4. Does your insurance cover you for face-to-face in-person work during the coronavirus epidemic, especially if you are able to practise in a different way e.g. via video conferencing or by phone?

✓ Speak to your insurance provider.

And most importantly,

5. Are you ready to return seeing clients face-to-face? Do you feel safe? Will you need time to prepare?

✓ Speak to your counsellor or therapist.

When do you intend to start seeing clients again in person? Please share your experiences, considerations and comments below.

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